The Resurrection of ME... Part 2

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The Resurrection of ME... Part 2

Survival à During this unexpected life experience I continuously slap a smile on my face and bulldoze my way thru as a wife, and mother and step mother as the EXs get more and more out of control.  My ex avoids child support like the plague, call me names, threatens me and the ex-wife (nice way of putting it) has been a strain emotionally and financially as she continues to intentionally manipulate the dynamics of our family. If it isn’t one thing it is another… the Ex’s, kids, money, in-laws, family or each other. It was almost to the point of no return with our relationship. My hubby and I decided to take a step back re-evaluate our situation to overcome one issue at a time. We started with BOUNDARIES … back the f**k up and let ME (US) breathe!!!!!!!!!!!! (sorry I self diagnosed myself with turrets)

This new blog journey is all the way real. Real experiences, real situations, feelings etc. etc. … I am and always have been an open book, which is my own personal therapy. If you do not want your story told then you should HAVE NOT included me. LIFE IN THE WHITEHOUSE (the off brand) is my story, my journey, MY TRUTH. My crazy!

Housekeeping à

These blogs will be posted every FRIDAY (fingers crossed) and will include my journey as a wife, mother of all master of none, and my journey to self-love and mental stability. I have researched the “Step MOM” phenomenon to prove that crazy was bestowed upon me and it is really not me, IT’S THEM. Seriously folks, I see crazy people and they walk around disguised as family. Basically I am proving that my trip from the mountain top to the valley was not by choice but by force. I have felt a lone for a very long time so I figured it had to be others in this valley also and sure enough there were others who had experienced the wife/mom/stepmom blues.  However most of them were almost out of the valley on their way back to the mountain top. The ones that remained where hopeless. Here I am trying to validate my thoughts, feelings, reactions to the bull-ish that I inherited and others had been there and done that. Who knew there was a solution to this blended family thing? I didn’t and still don’t, I take it one day at a time. Now here I am sitting in the valley damn near alone with a glass of wine of course, thinking where do I go from here? It did not take long to figure it out. Most of the stepmoms exiting the valley via their blog focused on cohesiveness, celebrating family, playing nice with the ex’s, basically KUMBAYA moments .. No ma’am not this BLOG. I am keeping it 100%  ME real which will include all my crazy and happy moments!  However I have not decided whether I should change the names of the trifling or if I really want to embarrass the kids. After another sip of wine, I decided HELL YEAH I wanna embarrass the kids! But still trying to decide how to deal with the trifling.  Decision, decisions.  Hopefully in a weird, crazy sort of way, this will help others cope and walk away from the ledge one pill at a time. But before I officially begin ………

DISCLAIMER:  For the narcissistic outsiders (the ex’s) who think I am talking about you I AM, however this is all about ME, not you!

YOU CAN’T KEEP A GOOD WOMAN DOWN……..especially when she has a glass or bottle of wine in her hand.

 

Monroe Bishop



The Resurrection of ME~~~~~

The Resurrection of ME

Whoever said, "HAPPY WIFE, HAPPY LIFE" they were right and betcha it was man…. #SMARTMAN Um hum! Somehow, somewhere down the line it is now being said that “A Stress free Mom is a Happy Mom” and betcha no one knows where this one came from because kids could careless about their moms stress level.  I said all that to say this ….I HAVE RESURRECTED ME!

 

Somewhere during my experience I got lost. So I took a well-deserved break to gather my thoughts and reclaim my SANITY! Some of you may or may not have noticed but I was falling downhill fast as hell.  It had gotten to the point that I couldn’t handle everyday life. The smallest things would set me off.

 

Some days I would wake really sad and drag assing through my day. My irritability was off the Richter scale, my husband and kids were running from me. I got mad when the talked to me and I got mad when they avoided me, it was a no win situation. The sad part is, no matter how hard I tried I could snap out of it.  I did a lot of yelling, lost a lot sleep and I had no energy. I was basically close to the LEDGE, but I wasn’t ready to jump!

Fast forward to today … I FEEL FABULOUS. Do not get me wrong I have my days but I cope a lot better under stress than I have in the past. I face each day, knowing that everything is not a ISSUE, I only deal with what is in my CONTROL, and I set up BOUNDARIES … your problem is no longer mine! Finally ..I am HAPPY!!!!!

The new found happiness has led to me writing UP TO chapters 6 of my long a waited book, and resurrecting my blog. Life is good.

Life In the White House … Chapter 3: SCREAMING is open for sharing, laughing, crying and loving life God gave me. Yawl ready...WHO CARES I AM!!! and yes I am SCREAMING!!!  

#HappyMe #WritingisFundamental #IamDrivingNOTyou #Sitbackandshutup #ITSallaboutME

By Monroe Bishop

 



Declaration of SELF.....

 

I am so emotional...

I reek of immaturity when I am mad

I walk looking down not to avoid eye contact but because I'm afraid of stepping in gum

When I cook I have to make my plate first

I do not like folks dropping by my house unannounced

It is what it is .....Its Me!

 



I am so emotional....

I use to eat catfish now I'm booshie so I eat Tilapia

I love love food that makes my breath stink

If need be, I would get a pay day loan to buy a pair of shoes

I love the Lord, my relationship is between my God and Me

It is what it is.... Its ME!

 

 

I dont like kids so dont ask me to babysit

Wine is always the answer ... for me

I work because I have to not because I want to

Secretly I always wanted a tongue ring

It is what it is.... Its ME!

 

I wanna be a bartender

I always dreamt of the house with a white picket fence...oh yeah and a husband

My long term memory is short

My short term memory is even shorter

I journal so when I die I leave behind how I really felt

It is what it is....Its ME!

 

And FINALLY ....

I am afraid of clowns and the bottom of shoes

My secret crush is .... SIKE I'm not telling

My toes have always been ugly but I show them anyway

Therapy works (I should know)

I am firm believer in 'Medication Needed' and 'Whenever Necessary'

I am a bad listener except when you are talking about me

I always forget the steps to the Cupid Shuffle until I hear the lyrics

IT IS WHAT IT IS....its me!

 

 

 

 

 

Weekly 'Mental' Purge

“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
― Oscar Wilde

 

 

Okay so this blog thing is not working out a planned. This past week has been super crazy to say the least. We, me, I am in the middle of a year end cycle at work with the sole purpose of ensuring that all employees W2 statements are accurate. So forgive me for this super late posting, late material, past thoughts and sporatic randomness. #Tired.com #NoSleepatAll #BusyMom #PlumTired


With Thanksgiving in the past, thanks to the kids constantly reminding me of their Christmas debt wish list I know December is super close. I am so not ready for the holidays. Yet, this is my favorite time of the year.  We typically pull the tree out of the attic to decorate although my dear sweet hubby has yet to take down the decorations from the attic. #PatientlyWaiting. O_o   There is really no set tradition in the White House other than me trying to decide which color scheme to decorate for that year. Decisions, decisions …. Any way I look forward to the best cartoons ever A Charlie Brown Christmas, Rudolph the Red Nose Reindeer and Frosty the Snowman.  The kids don’t appreciate the Christmas cartoons back in ‘my’ day but little do they know this was the time the family congregated in the living room with hot chocolate, snacks and feet pajamas to indulge in the meaning of Christmas .. Family!


This week has been exhausting, hence this late post that was due on Friday. Monday was my last day on PTO (personal time off), I did my Martin Lawrence imitation DAMN! DAMN! DAMN! It’s all good though I had a great weekend. Initially my plan was to sit around journal, catch up on my new favorite TV show The Walking Dead, sleep and just maybe (maybe) go to the gym however things do not always work out as planned. My ususal marathon of events took over, more like a possession; cooking, cleaning, washing and the list goes on and on. End of story, after all it was said and done, finally I was able to relax with a nice glass of wine. Ultimately, the pen went dry, I avoided the gym, and the TV ended up watching me BUT, I got some sleep ;)
 

In other news, let the games begin. Malik and Charity basketball games are in full effect and boy I am tired just thinking about the seemingly endless games. As much as I don’t understand the game it is really exciting to see the kids work hard with their team. Don’t laugh but I only yell when the crowd does, and repeat the chants made to the refs by another parent when a call is made against one of our players. Other than buying $1 gummy bears, greasy nachos and sour pickles and nursing a tummy ache the next day that is the extent of my basketball knowledge.  Needless to say neither of  the kids teams have won a game but the spirit of those events are memories they will cherish forever … win or lose.
 


Finally.  Hopefully next week I will be able to provide more insight into The White House. Until then, have a great weekend.

Diary of a MAD BLACK MOM

Dear Kids,

Starting today there will be a new kitchen chore added to the already long list of other things that are so conveniently forgotten.

• Fill up the Brita Water Pitcher aka holy water

If this new is task is not carried out I will be forced to punish you a ass whooping with faucet water aka the devil.

Thanks so much sweetie pies

Love
Mom

Happy Thanksgiving __ Before, During, And After

 

"I was smiling yesterday, I am smiling today and I will smile tomorrow. Simply because life is too short to cry for anything" ~Author Unknown~

 

Every year as Thanksgiving approaches I start reflecting on things I am thankful for such as family.  This time of the year is very difficult being so far away from my Florida family, knowing they are together without me,  celebrating in fun.  The tradition in the Bishop household (Orlando) is to wake up early to a big breakfast , and to lay out the strategy for the day.  Mommie always give us duties that hardly ever seem to get done (by Yasha mostly.. lol). I pitch in here and there but I claim the title of GUEST since our family travels in to visit. Mommie won't admit it but she loves the hustle and bustle of her kids/grandkids moving around getting in her way and doing absolutely nothing to help.

As we prepare to sit for dinner, sometimes (if we remember) everyone has to say what they are thankful for at the dinner table. To date, we have never shed a tear but we do have a few laughs along the way. At the end of the day I love my family and I am so thankful no matter where I am I feel included and loved.

With a sadness, a tear drop and now a smile, I have to say this year I will not make it to Florida, however a change of attitude is needed and that is exactly what I did, changed my attitude.

What am I thankful for... family, friends, my house, my job, good health ...LIFE! This Thanksgiving will be GREAT, because I am claiming it!

Thanksgiving Eve

 

Dinner at Ivy's, it sounds so sophisticated right? WHEW, is all I can say about this week. I have to laugh now because up until the actual the day the event planning process was nerve wrecking to say the least.  A intimate gathering for a few family memberss turned into a full fledged mass of confusion.  Whats on the menu Ms. Ivy ... Turkey, green beans, dressing, rolls and sweet potatoe pie. The 100lb turkey had been cooking since 12 o'clock that day so by 7pm it was still not done. Lavonda saved the day with the single family size turducken. Obviously it was not enough for everyone but no one complained besides it was 1st come 1st serve,  get in where you fit in moment! I loved it!!!!! Who says you need meat for Thanksgiving o_O

Thanksgiving Day .. A Day of Thankfulness and Servitude

Whats on the menu for today Tiffany.... Baked turkey breast in a bag, mustard greens with smoked ham hocks, red potatoe salad, rolls and butter pound cake. I must say, although it was last minute I did my thing, and put my foot up all in that.  (So say I)

Moment of Giving~
I have always wanted to involve my kids in community projects especially when it involves giving back to others.  My son Malik ONeal and I went to the Humble Civic Center to volunteer with serving others that are not as fortunate. We arrived a little late (CPT)... but I was pleasantly suprised at the turn out of givers and receivers.  We checked in at the volunteer station and was to told to find a spot, any spot.  Not to be discouraged but we went from station to station asking for a opportunity to help, the majority of the stations were full with volunteers but we squeezed in at the drink station for a bit. I have to say filling cups with ice and pouring sweet tea was not that exciting but seeing all those faces was a defining moment.  All in all it was an amazing feeling helping others, giving back and being apart of something epic. At the end, we got us a to go plate for the road.

Love of a family~
Tiauna arrived home just in time to join us for dinner at Aunt Tameria and Uncle Charles house.  Late as always, we arrived just in time to fix a plate, heat it up in the microwave and catch the last quarter of the Texans' game. After eating up some food, we all sat around talking, gossiping, and remembering moments with Madea. Listening to my hubby talk about his childhood, and the Grisby sisters talk about their childhood was entertaining. As always when it was time to clean up, I was no where to be found without my camera that is!

The atmosphere was initimate, on point and I actually felt at home. It felt like Family!

At the end of dinner, Tiauna passed out with that NIG-ITIS!

Thanksgiving..The Day After

A day of rest, reflection and did I mention REST? I am off from work, with no plans other than watching TV and the TV watching me!

Happy Holidays

Well, it's been a few months since the last post, whoops! So, I figured it's high time I posted something!!!!!
Hi everyone...I know I've been MIA and it's now WINTER what can I say, plus I seem to be getting use to change, life and love on a whole new level.

 

I am not sure but something moved me to get this blog thing started again. No promises ....

 

Right now I am throwing around some ideas on what direction to take this thing in. Whatever I decide it must be important to me, entertaining enough for you and passionate.

 

Whats important to me .....GOD, ME, FAMILY, LIFE, FRIENDS AND so many other things that are renting space in my head. Basically its survival. Surviving the ups, downs and merry go rounds of life. My hope is to keep things positive, informative, and enlightening.

 

So lets see where this goes.....

 

My Life...Your Entertainment ;)